“All riiiiight,” I said to my six year old black cat crouched and hiding behind the reading chair.  “I’m trusting you then.”

Cher’s not usually allowed free rein of the house, since she has been known to do bad kitty deeds.  (She’s actually notorious for it, thanks to me.) 

But I couldn’t catch her to return her to the office.

So I opted for taking the leap of faith that she was trustworthy and would behave herself properly while unsupervised.  (Last time I did that it didn’t turn out fabulously well.)

As I walked away from the chair she was crouched behind, I found myself starting a mental tally of the damage she could do.  “Maybe I should put a blanket on that couch; it might be smart to close the bedroom door.”

And I realized these are not the thoughts nor actions of a person who is feeling trust.

Nice catch on not vibing what I thought was.  (Note to self: clean it up!)

Which made me wonder how many other times and on what other occasions I’ve done the same: saying I felt one way but really not coming anywhere close to it.

Sound familiar?

I’ve seen it a handful of times this last week in others, as well.

Like when my sweetheart said he trusted his son to follow through on filing paperwork for the insurance claim, but when it was revealed the forms weren’t sent, Russ wasn’t surprised. 

(If you really trusted someone to do something, you wouldn’t expect the opposite, right?  That was nothing but nice lip service, sweetie.)

Or when one of my clients said he was confident he would get the job offer, and he then spent the week worrying he might not. 

(Confidence doesn’t rendezvous with worry.)

Or when my computer said a really bad thing the other day (so bad I won’t repeat it), and I shut her down to let her get her head together, then hit the restart button and left the room so she could do her happy & good thing in peace (without interference from my nervous vibe). 

But when I approached the office door ten minutes later, I could feel anxiety growing as I wondered whether I would see anything on the screen or not.  (Luckily, I caught the contrary vibe flowing then, too, and detoured myself before coming back an hour later after playtime with foster kitties, completely forgetting I even had a trouble to start with.)

The point being: we can say the words, but if we’re not feeling the feeling, Universe is getting a completely different instruction from us!

And we know how this stuff works - we get what we’re vibrating (i.e. what we’re feeling.)

So, Cher, I’m gonna do a little cleaning up of the vibe right now before I make the rounds. 

Actually, a person who truly trusted her cat was on her best behavior wouldn’t be making any rounds, so scratch that!

And now I invite you to check in on where you might be saying one thing but doing another, cause I kinda got a feeling I’m not alone in this one.  ;)

Would love to hear your experiences of how you catch the contradiction and how you clean it up, as well!

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by Eva Gregory, CPCC

Self-sabotage is a term used when someone is blocking themselves from achieving their ultimate goal. Does the definition of this term ring true for you? Or have you never considered that the obstacle in your path could be...you?

In The One Minute Millionaire, authors Hansen and Allen state that in order for success to be achieved one must establish congruence. Congruence is when things come into alignment, but not just arbitrary things, three very specific things. First, your desire...you have to want it. Second, your belief... you have to believe (have faith) that you can get it. Lastly, self-acceptance... you have to know and feel that you deserve to have it.

They sound simple, and it's easy to understand the reasoning behind them, but this is why so much self-sabotage occurs. One thinks that they're in alignment, while suppressing a tiny niggling fear or question of doubt. Just one such doubt or a wishy-washy thought on one of any of the three key areas is enough to de-rail your success.

So how does one overcome the doubts and defeat self-sabotage?

When Desire is Your Nemesis

Explore if you've really bought-in to your goal. Is it your goal or someone else's? Will it make you happy, or are you trying to fulfill an obligation, taking an easy way out, or just not feeling 100% about it? A classic example of this is when a son or daughter follows a career path to please a parent, even though they'd prefer to do something different. Make sure your goal is truly your heart's desire.

Do you really believe that?

Wanting a goal and believing that you can actually achieve the goal are as different as night and day. Many people want success, but how many really believe that they can become the next Donald Trump or Bill Gates? It's not lack of desire, but lack of belief.

Perhaps they are not sure how to proceed with the goal, or are unable to see how to afford the education to get started, or think they don't know the right people to contact. Whichever the case, these scenarios all work to weaken the belief system. Work on confidence building and add tools to your arsenal to combat limiting beliefs. If you approach your goal from what you DO have instead of what you think you don't have a positive shift will occur.

But am I Really Worthy?

Do you ask yourself if you're worthy to succeed? Many people compare themselves to the previous generation. "My parents had a very small home and only one car. My spouse and I have a 3,000 sq. ft. home, two cars, 1 or 2 incomes, and a boat, so we should be happy." Why? Should you be happy with less than you could achieve simply because it is more than others have? Only you can answer that question for yourself. Perhaps there is an underlying belief that wealth is the equivalent to greed? If you don't believe that you deserve to have success and everything that comes with it, success will remain elusive.

Congruence

Congruence is the key to reaching all of your goals successfully, whether they are goals of career, personal growth, or love. Triumph stems from your inner perceptions. Getting to know yourself honestly and wholly can unlock the doors to the happiness and success that until now, you've only dreamed about.

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Eva Gregory, CPCC, is a master coach, speaker and author of several programs and books including The Feel Good Guide to Prosperity. She has instructed tens of thousands in person, on the radio and in teleconferences, seminars and workshops on how to deliberately create a life by design using the Law of Attraction. As co-host of The Jeanna and Eva Show and The Law of Attraction Show on Exceptional Wisdom Radio, she has interviewed some of the most powerfully successful motivational experts today. Her new book, Life Lessons for Mastering the Law of Attraction, co-authored with Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hanson and Jeanna Gabellini, can be found in bookstores everywhere.

Copyright @2009 Eva Gregory. All rights reserved.

Back On May 5th  I wrote:

I have decided to keep an online journal here as part of the 45 day Boundless Living Challenge and record things I am grateful for as well as developing my gratitude muscle
I will add to it daily and my plan is too add at least five things a day
So check in to see if I am being true to me- one of my biggest challenges is staying on track and developing my motivational muscle

Today is Day 58 of blogging each day.

I have been building the What am I Grateful For Today site I first wrote about back on June 9th. That was the first post in Connie Ragen Green’s 30 day Power Blogging Challenge . I have upped my posting here, but doubt that I will make the 30 posts in 30 days by July 7th. I have done 15 so far. I wil now switch my entry to What Am I Grateful for that has a blog post for every day since I started.

Sometime I just get in the writing groove, this is blog post number 4 today

Wishing you a High Vibe Day

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