Archive for May, 2009

A couple years ago fellow coach Tom shared a story he heard from Eckhart Tolle that went something like this:

It’s as if you are an apartment building, with lots of doors and windows.  It’s through your open doors and windows that the Universe delivers the goods you’ve been asking for.

The challenge is that most of us have many of our doors and windows closed up. 

For example, Tolle suggested, when it comes to Money, most of us have all our doors and windows locked up tight,  except for one – cracked open just an inch or two – which we call our JOB.

The point being that our belief system doesn’t allow most of us to receive as much money as we could be, as easily as we could be. 

So all Universe has to work with is a couple of inches.  It has to try to squeeze through all the money we’ve been desiring through this one barely open window.  When instead, if we had all our doors and windows wide open, money (and everything else we want) could quickly and easily flow in!

I’ve found through work with clients, and even in myself at times, that if we don’t see “how” money could come to us, we’re stumped in being able to believe it will.

For that reason, I’d like us to open some doors and windows right now by sharing here all the different ways we know, believe, and imagine money could flow into one’s life.  Please share your story about how money came into your world unexpectedly or unusually!

I’ll start a short list here, and will add to it based on your comments. 

(Don’t worry about reading all the comments to see if someone else already posted yours – repeats are great!!)

Possible Ways Money Could Enter a Person’s Life:

• Earn it
• Inherit it
• Find it
• Be gifted it
• Win it
• Conjure it (I’ve done it)
• Grow it (investments, money trees)
• Print it
• Steal it (Martha says if you don’t include something illegal, immoral or unethical, you’re not thinking outisde the box!)
• Borrow it
• Remember it (it’s been there all along!)
• Keep it (when you were expecting to part with it)
• Raise it (sell something, fundraise, etc.)
• Tips
• Pose as model for art class
• Free airfare (skymiles)
• Slot machines
• Get paid for services you’d do for free
• Win a bet with a friend
• Refinance the debt/mortgage
• Insurance settlement proceeds
• Return something to the store
• Late wedding presents
• Win something in a drawing
• Reward money for info to police
• Member share check from utility company
• Refunds
• Witnessing a marriage
• Coupons showing up
• Qualifying for unemployment compensation
• Bills or expenses less than expected
• Overpaid escrow refund
• Interest on savings
• Government economic stimulus payments
• Ex-spouse pays back child support
• Government funded parental leave
• Gift cards
• Ask for it
• Focus group participation
• Survey incentives
• Sugardaddies (ha!)
• Treasure hunt
• Bank mistakes in your favor
• Find an old stash of it

Here are a few of my favorite stories about money coming in effortlessly through wide open windows besides the J-O-B one:

After intending more money into his pocket, a client’s mother asked him to read a letter she just received from the Department of Unclaimed Property.  It was alerting her that there was a balance due to her, but she had to complete paperwork in order to claim it.  She told her son if he would do the paperwork, he could keep whatever came from it.  He deposited a check for over $6,000 shortly afterward!

It actually used to be my J-O-B to notify people that they had a balance in a 401k plan that we needed to distribute to them (by law).  More often than not, they had totally forgotten or never even knew they had any money in the plan.  Those were fun letters to send and checks to cut!

One of my clients is masterful at attracting investors to his coaching business.  Most coaches don’t grow their business with someone else’s money, but he has been offered three different (five figure) investments by various people who wanted to support him in his impactful work.

Friend and fellow coach Michele just tweeted yesterday while talking to the IRS that instead of owing them money, it turns out they owe her money!  Way to go, Michele!

Those of you who have worked with me have heard my story about intending effortless easy money, only to discover weeks later that my bank balance was mysteriously higher than it should have been.  Repeatedly.  Even after letting the bank know there was a mistake, the process continued.  Between $100 and $200 every five or six weeks would mysteriously appear.  Couldn’t see the deposit, couldn’t see where I was off in my reconciliation (and I was a CFP – I knew how to reconcile).  Eventually I gave up trying to balance my checkbook, so for all I know it’s still happening!

Okay, I’m turning this party over to you! 

Let’s hear ways money comes to us besides our jobs, as well as some of your favorite real life stories where it’s happened to you or someone you know. 

Remember, repeat examples are great.  When it comes to opening up doors and windows that we’ve had closed, repetition helps!  (As might re-reading Vibrating Money In or playing with the Money Mantra.)

And if you’re thinking this is the post you need to read rather than contribute to, I invite you to rethink.  We get what we put out, so if you feel particularly ready to let some money in, the best thing you could do is get in alignment with it by recalling a time it’s happened to you!

Here’s to recognizing money for what it is in our lives: whatever we choose it to be. 

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Today there is an epidemic of unhappiness. Studies show that at least 1 in 5 women are on anti-depressants. Reflecting back to memories of childhood, almost every little girl held the dream of living “happily ever after”. Usually the “happily ever after” contained visions of marrying a prince and then moving off to a far away land to live in a magical castle filled with lots of children and an ample supply of help from the likes of maids, servants, cooks, etc. A BIG dream often told to us by parents, grandparents, or other close family members and friends. A tale that was entertaining to say the least although many of the loved ones who enjoyed telling this type of story were unaware of its conditioning effects on a young child’s consciousness.

As a child many of us held grand visions of living “happily ever after”. Somewhere along the road as a teenager our joy for dreaming big and thinking happy thoughts was forgotten or lost amidst all the pressures and expectations one felt when conforming to societal structures. Reaching adulthood, personal levels of happiness were greatly diminished in comparison to the natural elation one felt as a child. Why is it that as we move through the journey of life, we develop a tendency to ponder negative aspects more often than the positive aspects of events, circumstances and people in our lives ultimately resulting in feelings of emptiness and unhappiness?

We are born naturally wanting to live a life filled with meaning and value, to live with joy and lasting happiness. Unless one is born into an environment that nurtures a connection to their true divine self, they become conditioned over the course of childhood with thoughts and beliefs surrounding ideas of how others expect them to be. A false sense of self develops that is egocentric in nature. An individual mark of identification begins to evolve that ultimately shapes one’s perception of the world and their role in it. Many of us are conditioned from an early age to believe that who we are, what we have, and what we do define our value and worth in the world. This point of view keeps one focused on remaining separate from others. Therefore, a person feels that they have to continuously strive to prove to themselves and others of their extreme value and self worth.

Searching for happiness or happy endings in the accumulation of material things or circumstances that occur outside of the self may provide a temporary state of joy but it is not lasting. To live a life that is “happily ever after” is to experience a solid foundation of joy in every moment. Fulfillment of this level is only achieved when one turns inward to fully participate in the abundance of good feeling thoughts that align them with the larger source of who they really are. It is the journey of connecting to the true divine self that brings about the essence of pure joy and bliss that one is seeking.

As human beings we create our existence in the world through our perceptions, thoughts and feelings. What we create on the inside is reflected on the outside. Finding happiness through physical action does not work not because joy begins with one’s state of mind. It is up to each one of us as individuals to utilize our profound freedom found in the ability to choose the nature of every thought in all moments.

Feeling happy in the all powerful moment of NOW is the key to success. Choosing positive thoughts that make one feel happy is to open the door to profound levels of joy. When a person is angry, sad, frustrated, or struggling, joy cannot exist. Focusing on problems and unwanted things prevent happiness from flowing into one’s life experience. A person cannot feel joy when negative emotions are present. This is a proven universal law of physics! The life one lives is the exact replication of what they are thinking. To allow joy and to create a sustainable flow of happiness, one must go within and deliberately choose the nature of their thoughts.

It is the natural tendency of the ego to justify what is negative or wrong in a current situation in an attempt to improve an environment. Because the laws of physics are always responding to each and every thought, attention given to undesirable things keeps attracting more of the same. When experiencing unwanted events and situations in life, it is crucial for one to shift their thoughts to the things that arouse joy and happiness if they want to observe improved results.

Each and every person is in complete control of their thoughts. When you become aware of this fact, you take control of your life. Remaining disciplined and persistent in what you give your focused attention to will manifest the results that you are seeking. Achieving sustainable levels of joy and happiness is completely possible! To allow more joy to flow into your life experience and live a life that is “happily ever after”, follow these seven proven steps:

• Make the decision to allow joy to flow into your life. Choose it NOW!
• Make it your dominant intent each and every day to feel joy in whatever you are doing. Joy is your quest. By focusing on the things in your life that make you feel good, you literally train your thoughts at a physical level. As one persistently inclines the mind to joy, happiness becomes a chronic habit in your life. This means that as good feeling thoughts dominate your consciousness, happiness effortlessly flows into all areas of your life.
• Write down all the things that make you feel good and produce happiness in your life. Make room each day to remind yourself of those things and create the time to do them. Writing down what you desire strongly emphasizes your belief that what you are seeking is achievable.
• To further emphasize what you REALLY want, think and speak only of those things. Place all your attention and focus on your desires. If you find yourself thinking and speaking about unwanted things, stop and refocus on the things that you really want.
• Find the positive aspects in every situation and persons around you. Even if you do not feel good in or around them, when you look for something to appreciate, such as lessons learned, experience gained, one discovers relief from the negative feeling thoughts. This allows the energy to shift into a more positive experience which consequently improves the situation.
• Keep a positive expectation on all the wonderful changes that are going to occur in your life as a result of feeling good. When you nurture a desire by strongly believing that what you are seeking is going to show up, your mind becomes a powerful magnet that attracts the things you are thinking about. Observe the positive changes as they take place in your environment.
• Celebrate ALL successes no matter how large or small.

When you make it your life long quest to experience joy, you open the door to a sustainable happiness. Everything that you have ever desired or imagined for yourself will easily and effortlessly flow into your life. This is the ultimate experience of living “happily ever after”. Keep yourself happy by doing what you love and enjoying everything you do. Be happy NOW!

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©2009 Elizabeth Pagayonan: Creating Intentions
All Rights Reserved.

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It’s official.

I’m giving up the fight today.  On lots of things:

• I’m giving up my prejudice against processed food.  (Why did I carry that so long?  I know better!) 
• I’m giving up trying to contain this feral foster mom.  (Sweetie, you wanna go – you can go.)
• I’m giving up thinking I know how air travel purchase is supposed to work.  (What do you mean my browser timed out?!  Who do I gotta be – Speedy Gonzalez to get this thing done before you unplug me?!
• I’m giving up telling my body what I think is best.  (I was thinking sleep would be better, but she says awake is the way to go.)

Okay, I get it.

While I’m at it, I’m also gonna give up thinking I know how Russ should deal with his youngest son.  And maybe my attachment to this sweet foster dog, Sydney. 

And giving up being upset about damage to carpets and broken dishwasher doors and screwed up internet service.

Whoa nellie – things are starting to feel better already!

I’m giving up the fight!  Yay!!

Feral mom, Humane Society is waiting for you and they (unlike me) believe you are adoptable.  I’ll take good care of your babies.

Dishwasher repair guy – take your time.  It all works out perfectly.

Crackers and cheese for lunch – I’m gonna eat it either way, why not LOVE IT?!

Body says move now, I get it.  We’ll move.  She says chocolate soy milk – hey, who am I to argue?!  She’s officially running the show from now on.  Can’t wait to see what happens!  (Oh my God, did I just say “see what happens“!?  ha!)

I know I’m due to send out an ezine today and a follow up post on Bridging the Manifesting Gap – we’re waiting till some of this resistance clears, apparently.

‘Cause I’m giving up the fight.  All of them!  Including the one that says you better finish booking your air travel since you only have one leg purchased.   Screw it!  I hate air travel, and Universe and Delta and Southwest all know it!  I can’t fool ‘em! 

I’m giving up the resistance and getting okay with what is.   

And already, just while typing this post, I feel (and see) things coming together. 

• The furniture delivery guy calls to say bookcase is ready and lets me pick the delivery day next week.  Sweet! 
• Michele says stay as long or short as you want on Sunday.  Easy!
• My ex & best friend calls to say “What can I do for you today?”  Oh, let me count the ways! 

Ahh, the relief of giving up the fight! 

All this perseverance and “make it happen no matter what” and be the boss of everything – sheesh, it sucks.

When we feel resistance, rather than taking it as a sign to buckle down and grin & bear it and get’r done – let’s instead take it as a signal to relax and let go. 

Let’s take a deep breath and give it a hug instead of a boxing glove punch. 

Let’s remember that it all works out; that plenty is going right, and not take it all so seriously, huh?

Hee hee.

This post was for me today, but I thought someone else might benefit as well, so here it is.

Namaste.

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