Archive for July, 2009

I know someone whose life has been really challenging.

She grew up poor in a very conservative (read: close-minded) culture, and spent most of her life not feeling good enough.

Her passions in life weren’t respected or encouraged by others; she often felt like the square peg trying to fit in a round hole; and feelings of fulfillment or satisfaction were foreign to her.

As a result, in her adult life she continues to struggle: her life partner is the kind of guy that friends express sympathy for having to live with, her chosen industry is riddled with financial challenges, she recently lost $90,000 in real estate investments, and her health is far from ideal.  (She has no health insurance, to boot!)

I know another woman whose life was just about the exact opposite.

Her loving parents did a wonderful job raising her to be strong and happy, her environment supported her success at every turn, she often felt like the golden child as everything seemed to go her way.

(Scholarships, awards, raises, promotions, an abundance of rewarding relationships, etc.)

As an adult, this woman experiences unending happiness, in both “big” and “little” ways. Her sweetheart is open and devoted (many of her girlfriends wonder how she got so lucky), she’s incredibly successful at her chosen career, she lives in a beautiful and luxurious home, she’s financially secure and has everything going for her health-wise.

What’s the difference between these two women?

Perspective.

They are the same woman.

(Me.)

Each version could easily qualify as “the truth.”  But there’s a vast vibrational difference between each one.

And that’s how it is for EACH of us.

We can tell our story any way we like – and it’s all true.  You can tell me your sad story, or you can tell your happy one.

Which version would you rather live?

The thing is, your happy successful version is already a reality. You don’t have to create amazing new manifestations before you count yourself as blessed. You already are.  And if you don’t think so, you just haven’t been practicing that version.

It’s simply a matter of which perspective you attend to.

No matter where we stand, there is a way to see life as already wonderful. 

So the next time you hear me complain about how my boyfriend doesn’t scoop litter boxes and refuses to watch subtitled movies, you’re invited to give me a little reality check in the bee-hind and remind me that life is really, really good.

You can count on me to do the same for you.

FYI on my “woe is me” version: I purposely don’t carry health insurance and the $90k real estate “loss” comes from a tax appraisal thingy in yesterday’s mail listing significantly dropped values on two houses I own.  I couldn’t care less, but if I wanted to, I could sure get my panties in a twist about it!

My advice: choose your version wisely.  Your present and future happiness depends on it!

I have been keeping cool and feeling great with this smoothie all summer long! I was recently given this delicious recipe by Yogic Cleansing Specialist, Surreina of Yoganique
Yes…..it is the color of your lawn but it has amazing rejuvenation benefits and it is delicious! All my kids just love it and shout “yea!!!” whenever they hear the blender running.

Here are the following organic ingredients I use:

1 green apple
1 banana
1 handful parsley
1 handful kale
1 tablespoon coconut oil
1 tablespoon bee pollen
4 ounces filtered water or juice such as mango nectar

ENJOY!!!

The topic of expectations and how they relate to deliberate creation came up a couple of times this last week in interesting ways.

First, a Money Mojo Magic participant shared an exciting development in her life that could lead to a huge influx of income. 

This master manifester wondered whether to not get too excited about it or whether to let loose with imagining just HOW wonderful it could be.

My suggestion was to let loose and have delicious fun while entertaining really BIG thoughts about it!  I told her doing so would open the door wide for Universe to have some fun with this amazing new opportunity for success.

The next day Good Vibe reader, Anne, sent a link to and inquiry about my thoughts on this Zen Habits blog post (thanks, Anne!) about a beautiful method to find peace of mind. 

Basically, the Zen Habits article suggests expecting the worst so that we can more easily accept it when things inevitably go wrong. 

I have to admit, “expecting things to go wrong” didn’t sit quite right with me, although I am all for peace of mind and accepting what is.

At the same time, I know I’ve been in situations before where it felt prudent to caution myself that yes, this possible thing that might happen is super cool, but it might not (happen), so don’t get too attached to it. 

(Like when Oprah called, and when Jack Canfield asked for permission to use three of my stories in his Mastering the Law of Attraction book, and when Kim Falconer suggested we might co-author together, and when my super hot new date asked me out again, etc. etc.)

We know attachment is a sure way to shoot ourselves in the LOA foot.  So that’s good to avoid.  But do we really have to achieve non-attachment by managing (i.e. reducing, limiting) our expectations?

Isn’t there a way to keep the energy clean and pure and positive without holding back what we’re willing to imagine possible?

It seems an important question to answer because what we imagine is what we create. 

Thus, being able (and willing) to imagine the BEST things seems like the wise and powerful way to use our deliberate creative power! 

And yet, sometimes that’s exactly what kicks our gremlins into action – with a chorus of “don’t get your hopes up, you know what happened last time!” and “if it sounds too good to be true it probably is.”

So I’m opening this up you wise ones.   I’d love to hear your take on how you “manage” your expectations … do you let ‘em rip, or do you keep them in check?  Or does it depend?

What helps you stay in the most powerful place of manifesting when it comes to your expectations?

Do you worry about things all the time?  Do you fret over everything?  Do you think of the worse possible scenarios?  If so, do you realize that worrying is just your imagination creating something that you don’t want?

I catch myself worrying about the craziest, most ridiculous stuff!  Actually, it’s not really worrying that I do so much, but I’ll just have crazy ideas pop in my head.  For instance, almost every time I drive over a train track I think, for just a brief moment, what if a train comes barreling down and slams into me.  Or if I’m driving behind a truck that has a ladder or something sticking off the back I might think what if that ladder slides off the truck and goes right into my windshield and nails me in the face.  Basically, I just think of freak accidents happening to me &/or my family.  It’s so weird.  I hate it.

Like I said, worrying is just the imagination creating scenarios that you don’t want!  So, when I have these wild thoughts I immediately catch myself doing it and I snap out of it.  “Only good things come to me” is one of my mantras!

Being a firm believer in the Law of Attraction, I understand that thinking about things I don’t want only brings those unwanted things to me.  So I stop in my tracks (not on the train tracks – haha) and I think about what I want.  I only want good things to come to me.  And honestly…only good things do come to me.

If you worry a lot all you’re doing is imagining things happening that you don’t want to happen.  With all that energy focused on those unwanted things, you’re likely to manifest what you don’t want.  Then you get this scenario that you don’t want and it causes more worry.  More worry, creates more worry.  It’s a vicious circle!

The good news is that this works in the opposite way as well.  The less you worry, the less stuff you have to worry about.

The worrying has to stop.  Seriously.  If you think about it, most of the things you worry about don’t ever happen anyway so what’s the point?  It’s wasted energy.  It’s puts you in a funk, and it causes stress.  And I won’t even get on the topic of what stress does to you!!  Worry cannot change your circumstance, it only enhances it.

So here’s the deal.  Next time you start to worry, notice what you’re doing, and immediately stop.  Give yourself a mantra or affirmation.  They’re extremely powerful.

Only good things come to me.

I choose to let go and allow goodness.

I am safe.

I choose to let go of things I have no control over.

I trust that everything will work out.

At first you may be saying these things as you’re rolling your eyes, but eventually you start to believe it.  When you start to believe it, you start to have faith that everything will work out.  That faith is what allows you to stop worrying.

**Side note: I sell charms that help you to remember your affirmation.  They work beautifully.  Click here.**

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The You On A Tropical Vacation

On vacation we just aren’t ourselves. That is truly one reason we go on vacation.

Because everything is energy first, different places hold different energies, which is really why we go to them. After all, we are looking for a change of scenery, a change of pace. These truly mean that we are looking for a different rhythm, different from our daily routine.

We tend to be attracted to beautiful, magical vacation spots because, after all, they are relaxing and revitalizing. On a good vacation we rest, we let go of our daily concerns and worries and we enjoy ourselves. In other words, we stop being the version of us who worries at home. We leave the version of us that perhaps saves money at home and the version that is busy being uptight. On vacation, at least to some degree, that goes because we are taken with our new environmen, and it’s energy.

Getting away for a trip, especially to a location with a higher vibrating energy, lets us become a version of ourselves that we like more. We can’t help it because we get more into our flow. We tend to slow down on vacation and explore more of ourselves through our interests, the activities,, the food and even the shopping we do. Haven’t you ever bought something wild, like a flowered Hawaiian shirt, that you normally wouldn’t buy at home? It’s because you are tapping into the more lively or colorful you.