Archive for October, 2009

Earlier this week a new client asked how to handle it when our intentions don’t come to pass. 

(Come to think of it, that might be a good intention to unload, for starters.)

But it happens.  (Or is that a limiting belief to unload?!)

Anyway … some people use the possibility of foiled intentions as an excuse for not practicing deliberate creation.

That’s not how we really want to play it, right?

Like, Tiger Woods doesn’t stop swinging because he might not make every shot and Mick Jagger doesn’t stop writing songs because one might not become a hit.  There’s still plenty going right to enjoy!

We simply take our occasional disappointments in stride, shake ‘em off, move on, and celebrate the successes that DO unfold.  (And pretty soon we don’t even see them as “disappointments.”)

Which is what I got to practice when I learned a coaching award I intentionally set my sights on isn’t coming my way.  My initial “WTH?!” response was quickly followed by wondering where I missed the mark.

After all, I wasn’t attached to the outcome (although my irritated dismay at the results would reveal otherwise), I didn’t overdo it with the manifesting, I acted as if and visualized occasionally, reminded myself of the reasons it could happen (amping up belief), and activated the vibration of acknowledgement (which is what I really wanted).

Which just brought me back to thinking, “What the h*ll?!”

Yesterday a former client sent a similar email after learning her desired manifestation didn’t come to pass either.

My suggestion to her is the same I gave myself and what I would say to anyone else in these circumstances:

1) If it didn’t happen it’s because we’re not lined up with it. 

And that’s not a big deal.  Let’s relax and remember life is still good (just look around to see evidence as to why that’s true). 

After all, vibrational misalignment might not be a bad thing. 

For example, in this case it turns out the award is going to someone who has a stronger focus on business than coaching (that’s not the case for me, so I don’t fit the profile of who they were looking for); and that the audience plays a part in choosing the winner.  (I really don’t like popularity contests or soliciting votes.)

I’ve seen this with clients who were unsuccessful at manifesting a particular job or lover, only to later discover a person or opportunity that was even better for them than they originally set their sights on. 

Expecting McDonald’s to deliver a gourmet meal isn’t exactly paving an easy path.  Rather, we can just line up with “gourmet meal” and trust Universe to deliver it, not getting hung up on how or where or who it comes through.

Also, I recognized minor counter-intentions during the manifesting in realizing I didn’t want to deal with a winner’s spotlight.  Does my hair look good? Did I dress nice enough? Do I have to attend the cocktail party?  (Oh my, I’ve become a hermit in my work-from-home lifestyle!)  I also wondered what sort of promotion I’d have to be involved with as the award recipient.

(Hm, my situation is making more sense now.)

2) You’ve still got it banked; don’t give up on what you want. 

If you imagined it, Universe put it together and it’s patiently waiting for you (in a vibrational state).  It doesn’t disappear or go to waste – that energetic investment will be rewarded sooner or later.  (Even if it’s when you croak, as Abe says, before you get lined up.)

“Acknowledgement” is what I thought that award would do for me, and when I recognize how I already experience that, as well as additional ways I could let more in, I realize there’s no such thing as “losing.”

PS – thanks to Paul and Kim for sending really nice acknowledgments my way this week.  You reminded me I already have what I said I wanted!

Not to mention lots of us think it’s “over” before it really is. 

My ex just called to say his credit card company refused him the additional credit he needed for an expensive truck repair he had scheduled at the shop today.  He couldn’t see any other way the money would come to him in a few hours.  (No time to find extra work, no work to be had even if he had the time, no one was in the mood to lend or give or pre-pay the money, etc.) 

The smart guy recognized he was digging himself into a vibrational ditch with his fretting routine, so he said he wasn’t going to worry about it any more and hung up.  Five minutes later he called back to say someone voluntarily, out of the blue just then gifted him more than he even needed for the repair within minutes of making the decision to stop worrying.

Amazing how shortsighted we can be sometimes, huh?

When I asked higher powers about it (just got a new oracle deck that I’m loving!) this is the message that came (my summary in parentheses):

1. The fruits of your labor are manifesting.  Behave as though the desired change has already come about.  (You’ve planted a seed that is still unfolding.)
2. The process has begun; things are not as they appear to be; let the desire take you further down the road.  (It’s not over just because you can’t see it.)
3. Normal methods and views are no longer applicable.  New ways of seeing and operating are needed; move to a new vantage point.

Another tip came in from Alan Cohen’s email today, quoting A Course in Miracles:

“In any situation in which you perceive something missing, what is missing is what you have not given.”

Not exactly sure what that means yet, but what I’m most interested in exploring are YOUR perspectives on this topic. 

How do you handle it when the intention (supposedly) doesn’t come to pass?

Related posts:

1. How Simple Is It?
2. Q&A: Demands More Effective than Intentions?
3. Birthday Present for You

I absolutely believe that we are all one.  We look at the same sky.  We drink from one water.  We breathe the same air.  We are one energy.

Marcus Aurelius says this:

“Think often of the bond that unites all things in the universe, and their dependence upon one another.  All things are interwoven with one another; a sacred bond unites them; there is scarcely one thing that is isolated from another. Everything is coordinated, everything works together in giving form to the one universe. The world order is a unity made up of multiplicity: God is one, pervading all things; all being is one, all law is one… and all truth is one…”

While we are all connected, we are also all different.  Each one of us has our own unique abilities, talents, personalities, looks and thoughts.  I am so grateful we have these differences.  Can you imagine life if we were all the same?  How boring!!

I truly appreciate our differences.  I love that we all have different views and ideas.  While I don’t always agree, I keep an open mind.  And I appreciate that we have the freedom to express those different ideas.

I love that I can learn from different people, that I am entertained by different people, and that I can enjoy different people.  Thank you!

I think Bono says it best…

Too late
Tonight
To drag the past out into the light
We’re one, but we’re not the same
We get to
Carry each other
Carry each other
One

Thank you, Bono for giving us this song too!!

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By Christine Kloser

What does it mean to live a spiritual life… to really, truly, deeply live from the place of ease, grace, joy and love no matter what shows up in the world around you? This is a question I’ve been pondering for a few months now, and one that is getting answered as I face some challenges and changes in my life, business and family.

Living a spiritual life isn’t about skirting along the surface of understanding; rather it’s about being willing to look for deeper meaning, understanding, lessons and gifts in every moment of your life.

Like right now, for instance. Are you fully here, in this moment reading and absorbing this article (and giving yourself the focus and time you deserve to be fully present)? Or, are you reading this article with a dozen other things running through your mind feeling stressed about how much you have to do and how little time you have to do it in.

I’m simply asking you to notice what you’re doing right now. It’s only in stopping to notice what you’re doing that you can begin to uncover the gems that are waiting in each moment for you, including this one.

This consistent “noticing,” awareness and presence in each moment is what living the spiritual life is all about. Being spiritual doesn’t mean you have to retreat to a mountain top in India for a month of meditation. And, it isn’t something you do at your convenience when you feel you need it because the “going got tough.” Living a spiritual life is as simple as choosing to not get angry when someone cuts you off on the highway… and instead choosing to bless them with love and pray for that driver’s ease and safety. It means embracing a spiritual way of being in every moment of every day (or at least noticing when you have contracted into fear, doubt, anger, lack, etc. and doing something to shift into a higher state of being).

On the flip side, it’s also important to see that living a spiritual life isn’t about how peaceful, loving and connected you feel when you are alone with yourself. Yes, it includes that, but the spiritual “rubber hits the road” when you move into aligned and integrated action in the physical realm.

This is the most critical part of the journey of living a spiritual life… that you learn how to integrate what you’re experiencing in you inner world with how you show up in the outer world. This is part of why the outer world of my business will be transforming and shifting in the coming months… because I am transforming and shifting on the inside and I’m seeing things in my business (and my life) that no longer feel aligned with who I am today.

So, in closing, I’m going to recommend that you to take five minutes right now to ask yourself how you’re doing living your spiritual life and jot down whatever comes to you. If you have questions write them down; if you think I’m crazy write that down, too. If you’re resonating with this question and yearn to live a more aligned, expanded and spiritual life in every area, including your business… then write about what that might look like for you. Please give yourself the gift of a few minutes (right now) to reflect on this question. Your freedom may very well reside in what you’ll discover.

And, please don’t hesitate to email me what you wrote, or any further questions you have about Living a Spiritual Life. You can reach me at Christine@loveyourlife.com. I would love to know what you think of today’s article and how I can further serve you on this path of conscious entrepreneurship.

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Note: I hesitated to add what I’m going to share here, but then I realized that I may be doing a few of you a disservice if I didn’t share this. As of today, I have a few spaces remaining at my Freedom Retreat next month in Maryland. If you’re feeling like you need some time away from your day-to-day life to gain clarity and direction for your business, and your life (as you prepare for 2010) it would be an honor and a privilege to have you join me at the retreat. If you’re interested, please email me directly at Christine@loveyourlife.com so we can connect about the details.

© 2009 Christine Kloser

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Welcome The  Law of Attraction Carnival #55

Oops – I’m one week late in posting the October Law of Attraction Carnival. I had the second Thursday in my calendar.

This month congratulations to everyone who submitted I had so many good posts to choose from. I have chosen ones that inspired me, made me smile, gave me food for thought and some that called me to take action.
There is variety with a poem, a great list and my favorite new medium video.

I also miscounted and this month we have 8 of the best in alphabetical order.

The Best of the Best

Random Posts

• The Secret to Internet Success In 6 Simple Steps.
• Red Sky
• Monday Motivation-Gratitude
• Law of Attraction at Work
• Monday Motivational Sayings

Today I’m grateful that my youngest son turned 2 years old.  I’m grateful that we had an “intimate” party for him that was SO much fun.  I’m grateful that we were able to buy him lots of gifts, had a fabulous dinner (I made chicken with spinach, pears & feta – yum!), that my mom-in-law joined us, and that we were all together.  I’m grateful that we’re all healthy, happy & enjoying each other.

I’m so grateful to have my children in my life.  They have brought me so much joy.  They mean the world to me, and I’m so grateful that I’m responsible for them.  They have taught me patience, compassion, how to let go and how to be more present.  They show me what’s truly important.  And, they have taught me that love is infinite!!

I can’t thank you enough!  I love you, Max & Miles

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So I didn’t skip out on day 6 of this 21 day gratitude challenge.  The assignment was to call someone and tell them how much you appreciate them.  I did.  I called my mom.  Made me feel good and I know I made her day!  Thanks again, Mom.  I truly appreciate you.

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