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Last week I asked Good Vibe U folks their take on the role of apologizing in deliberate creation. 

The conversation arose when my coach quoted Abraham in saying that “Source doesn’t apologize.”  (She was late for a session and curbed a natural – and anticipated – apology for it.) 

Which made me wonder, if Source doesn’t apologize, then why do I find myself uttering the words “I’m sorry” so often and so easily?  Is that something I should be more conscious of?  Is there a better vibe to reach for in those situations?

And then I thought you all might help with the insights on this topic. 

Is there a better way to accomplish what we’re intending when we apologize?

One person said it’s just our “stock answer” that we give out of habitual social conditioning.  Another suggested that if it feels better to say it, then why wouldn’t we? 

Nancy had a fascinating story to share about her experience with it, and Carol quoted wisdom from Byron Katie that spoke to the reasons to skip the feeling of “sorry”: 

• “If I don’t have pain in me, I can see you as you really are.”
• “If it’s all about me than I’m not really hearing you.”
• “When you’re clear their pain is not your pain, you’re available to be there for them. You’re not afraid of their pain, because it’s not yours. It’s not about you. That’s compassion.”

What’s your take on this? 

Do you notice a dip or a rise in your vibe when you apologize?  Does it depend on the circumstance?  And is there a role for apologizing in powerful deliberate creation?

And how would you handle it when someone didn’t apologize for something that you thought might be warranted?  That one could potentially trip me up, I suspect.  (Like, Russ’ apology goes a long way toward helping me let something negative go.)

As usual, I’m looking forward to your take on the vibration of apologizing and its role in Law of Attraction!

Related posts:

1. Our Role in Co-Creating
2. Q&A: When Competing with Creators?
3. Q&A: What Feels Best?

Five weeks ago my live-in boyfriend of almost four years ended our relationship in one short and heated discussion. 

Some of you heard me commit to having this breakup in the vortex, so I thought you were due for an update as to how that’s working out.

Quick backstory: last month Russ said he’d had enough, was crystal clear about what he wanted, and if I wasn’t prepared to make immediate and significant change (which meant limits on a friendship with an ex-beau), then we were done.

(My friendships aren’t optional – even, maybe especially, ones with ex-boyfriends.)

So we were done. 

Just like that. 

While reeling from the shock of this surprise turn of events, I turned to my cohorts in creation and committed to having the best breakup I’d ever had.  A breakup in the vortex (ala Abraham).

I’ve never had one of those (a fun, enjoyable, loving breakup?) - so I didn’t know exactly what it would be like or how to go about creating it …

… but I did know from the anger, resentment and fear that was bubbling up that I needed to get very deliberate about what I chose to feel through all this.  Or I could easily get swept up in the typical routine of what we expect a breakup to be.

So in to the vortex I headed.

That trip in started with being really upset, primarily with his idiocy, some other name-calling (in my own mind and to a compassionate girlfriend or two), and a healthy round of blame.

That might not sound like vortex material, but it was an enormous step up from the initial despair and powerlessness I felt in the first red hot moment.

So with the feeling-better momentum in place (even if it came from bad-mouthing and imagining his deep regret about making such a stupid move), I swiftly moved on to disappointment and then worked my way up to acceptance. 

(When I say swiftly, I mean a couple of days.  This didn’t happen on a dime exactly.)

And get this: after being willing to fully feel all the not-so-nice stuff, I got beautiful access to the higher vibrations!  (It always surprises me how well that turns out!)

After being willing to feel scared and mad and all that other non-fun stuff, it gave me freedom from being stuck there.  Super cool how that worked.

In that space, I had the presence of mind to remember that  big change can only mean one thing – good things coming! 

Life only gets better, so to have a big shakeup like this must mean life would get even better than before.  And I thought it was pretty good to start with, so this would be interesting to see how Universe could top it!

I had no idea what “better than before” might look like – a new house?  A new man?  A new focus on me, or maybe my work?  This house to myself?  More cats??  I didn’t know.

I couldn’t see the end result, but I reiterated to myself that it’s only going to get better. 

And I knew that would work best if I could flow some surrender and acceptance, rather than resistance.

So I got okay with it. 

In fact, after a little bit of practice with the better-feeling thoughts, I started to be excited about what would happen next! 

I actually woke up one morning, you know that moment of instant recall once you’re awake again and the flood of realization comes back about what’s happening in life – yeah, at that moment this thought spontaneously popped in, “I love my life!”

To naturally come up with that thought in the midst of an uninitiated and unwanted breakup?  I knew I was in the vortex!

Which made it easier to appreciate all that was present in my life – not knowing whether I’d be with any of it next week even.  

I soaked up the good stuff now: waking up in this fabulous bed, hearing those beautiful birds outside, seeing his ridiculous Frosted Flakes in the pantry, picking up his mail from the mailbox, dating a first rate golfer (surely that wouldn’t happen again!), admiring this gorgeous backyard, talking to him about the vote on Survivor that he missed, even something as simple as saying goodnight.

All the stuff I’d been taking for granted!  Sure I appreciated it, but not like I was NOW.  Now that I realized it might not be here tomorrow.

I mentally traced back the path to how I got here, those early dates in the beginning, what a breath of fresh air he was.  His traits of being so practical and thinking ahead and smelling so good.  And the frustrations, too!  I could even enjoy those now that I knew they wouldn’t be in my future.  No more not letting dogs on the people couch – ha!  No more over-trimming of the lawn.  Ahhhh.

It was a lot of enjoyment packed in those days. 

Not to mention a tremendous amount of love and support coming from facebook friends and GVU compadres.  That was a LOT of love you guys sent!

So here I was dripping in love at a time when – normally – one would expect to be fired up with quite the opposite feelings.

It was quite vortexy!

I emailed Russ a sweet and heartfelt note about how I imagined he might be having a rough day, because even though all this was his idea I knew it wasn’t easy for him.  I told him how much I admired his courage to do what was in his heart, and how grateful I was that he honored what mattered to him, even when I didn’t agree with it.  

And I shared my confidence that good things were in store for both of us.

I even imagined in writing to him how his next partner would be so much more what he wanted.  I could genuinely enjoy the thoughts of him being happy with someone else, especially knowing life would get better for me, too.  However that might look!

So when he brusquely asked me to stop writing him and stay out of his way until we got into separate houses, I respected his request.  I knew his way of breaking up was different than mine, and I easily accommodated his request by laying low.  I stopped sending notes and did my best to not be home when he was. 

I was turning out to be a really good ex-live-in-girlfriend!

After a few days of this, Russ sent a note (when he couldn’t reach me by phone) saying he realized he had complained about things that seemed trivial now, that we had a good life together he had taken for granted, and that he hoped there was a road back for us. 

My rather rigid response was that there was no going back, our breakup was official (it was on facebook after all) and that I wasn’t interested in “going backwards.” 

He suggested that instead of going back to how things were he was committed to moving forward to join me where I was.  In this place of love and appreciation and commitment to feeling good.

Holy hannah – he’s joining me in the vortex?!

Sure enough, that’s what the last month has been.  And continued to be once I dropped my resistance-filled “rules” about how I conduct relationships with exes.

This union is now better than it ever was – even though we’re technically “exes” – it got even better than it was before.  In too many ways to count.  (If this post weren’t already this long, I’d attempt to count some of those ways.)

Although there is one very surprising and interesting side effect I will mention from this vortex breakup: I have never had less interest in other men ever before in my entire life. 

Like, I would have expected that in having a new ex I’d feel quite single and open to possibilities – “available” in some sense – since I wasn’t in a committed relationship. 

And yet, the opposite has happened.  I couldn’t have less interest in other men.  That surprises me.

I’m feeling a level of commitment in a supposed uncommitted relationship that I definitely didn’t expect.

So I’m having the best time ever with my newest ex-boyfriend, and looking forward to more of it.  Although I know that if he changes his mind tomorrow, I know how to handle that situation quite nicely.  (Been there, done that.) 

Universe delivered exactly what I expected in a way I didn’t anticipate.  Big change ushering in even better stuff.  From my personal experience I will say that breakups in the vortex are not to be missed! 

This post isn’t done, though, until I give due credit to those of you who flooded my world with feelings of love and support.  Seriously, a girl couldn’t have a bad breakup when she’s in the midst of that sea of love!  Thanks, all.

Related posts:

1. Abraham’s Vortex
2. Ventures Out of the Vortex
3. Switching the Dial

I just opened an email from someone who I and many others consider to be a spiritual leader in our community. 

Her energy work with clients across the globe helps them elevate consciousness, become more aware of energy, and surpass physical and emotional limitations. 

(She changed my life!)

But this email was a shocker. 

I would paste it here, but can’t bring myself to. 

Let me summarize briefly instead. 

It was a forwarded call to action to “flood” Obama’s email (they don’t even the respect to say President Obama) with instructions to veto the bill the Senate just passed (assuming it gets through the House) to ensure illegal aliens don’t get access to social security benefits. 

I was speechless. 

For a minute. 

And then recovered access to all sorts of my favorite sailor words.

So I’ve taken a deep breath.  And rather than just let this go and forget about it (this isn’t the first note she’s sent like this), there are a few things I want to say.  To remind all of us of, myself included, of the truth.

We know better than this!

First of all, even if you really believe in limitation of resources, even if you really believe the government is in charge of those resources, and even if you really believe there are some people who don’t deserve certain resources, the last thing that’s going to work for you is to push against it.

If you really think we’re not all one, and that how we treat another is not what we’re calling forth upon ourselves, and you really think you need to command the government into protecting your vested interests – this isn’t how you successfully create change.

How you go about it is like this:

Well, wait a minute.  I’m not finding super helpful instruction to someone who buys into – what I consider - false premises.

Because the fact is:

• we are all connected;
• what we wish upon another is what we call forth upon ourselves;
• there are no limitations unless we create them by believing in them; and
• the best way to get what we want is to focus on that positive end result rather than fight its opposite.

And guys, it’s up to us to practice this. 

We know how things work.

We are the leaders.

This fearful scarcity crap thinking is so outdated, it just won’t fly any more.  We know too much!

We are in a prime position to be more aware and diligent about what we are creating vibrationally.

Believe in your abundance, know that no one can prevent you from it (but yourself, and even then only temporarily), and that we can all have what we want – our happy endings fit together perfectly.

This is a clarion call to everyone out there who understands that at the foundation of our world is the law of attraction.  If we don’t change old habits, who will?

Okay, our kids will. 

But let’s not wait!  Let’s show them the way.  Let’s set the example for powerful living! 

We know too much to do it otherwise.

And I’ll start …

• by finding peace with those who do it different;
• by embracing my brothers and sisters who believe other than I do;
• by sending love to those who are discretionary about theirs;
• by remembering that we’re all deliciously human, even the ones on pedestals;
• by embracing the contrast and knowing it’s just taking us to even better places.

Now that feels better. 

Related posts:

1. More Proof that Vibe Trumps Action
2. Your Vibrational Instructions
3. How Are You Casting Your Vibrational Vote?

I was recently asked about my blogroll, which I haven’t given proper attention to. 

A major no-no for any blogger.

While I am fond of breaking rules, I also like to share the good stuff.  So I thought you all could help out here. 

What are your favorite Law of Attraction blogs?  Where do you regularly find insight and inspiration about deliberate creation?

I’ll list a couple, and am counting on you to expand the list!

Please name your favorite LOA blogs so we can share high quality content with others who might not already know about them.

A few off the top of my head (and a couple from google):

Ellie Walsh’s Living the Law of Attraction (since Ellie hosts the LOA blog carnival, I imagine she’ll know a couple to add to this list!)

Avi Marcus’ It’s an Emotional Journey

Shauna Arthurs’ Breathing Prosperity

Coach Tia’s Take Inspired Action blog

Antonio Thornton’s Thinkbanc

Linda Miller’s Law of Attraction Secrets

Hemal Radia’s Manifesting & Law of Attraction blog

John Peace’s Law of Attraction Guide

Eva Gregory’s Law of Attraction in Action (be prepared for lots of promotion, but Eva’s worth it)

Kristen’s Law of Attraction Key

Beth and Lee’s Law of Attraction and Positive Thought

Liz Gracia’s Seeds of Intentions

Zoe Routh’s Inner Compass writings

Suzie Cheel’s Abundance Highway

Jeanna Gabellini’s MasterPeace Coaching blog

Debra Gehrke’s Earth Harmony Home is always good for a vibe lift (technically not a strictly LOA blog, but you should know her just the same)

Communion of Light writings

oh, and hey – these guys threatened to keep up a blog, too!  Abraham-Hicks blog  Not much there yet, but it’s worth staying tuned into. 

Note: many very cool blogs didn’t get listed here because they either had an annoying popup, were too old (hadn’t posted in months) or too new.  If I didn’t care about being too new, though, I’d want you to know about Janette’s LOA for Me and Pernille’s LOA Magic blog.

What have I missed?  Please feel free to share your own if it’s not already here!

Related posts:

1. Using Law of Attraction to Win the Lottery
2. The Thing About Numbers
3. Q&A: Law of Attraction & Placebos

In their Manifesting What You Really Want lecture, Wayne Dyer and Deepak Chopra speak about the importance of leaving behind our tribal consciousness.

They say that tribal consciousness holds us back by passing on belief systems like viruses being the cause of colds and AIDS, God being a higher power separate from us, and other such nonsense.

For example, Deepak Chopra says that no illness is ever due to a pathogen; that that’s a misleading idea in medicine. 

Rather he says illness is always a conspiracy of improbabilities; that a susceptible host falls prey to a pathogen.  To not be a susceptible post, we must rise above fear-engendered responses.

And our tribe is expert at fear-engendered responses.

Which is why Wayne Dyer says he left the tribe a long time ago.

But I’m thinking there might be a tribe that doesn’t handicap us, but rather empowers us to new levels of consciousness and understanding.

I’m thinking there are groups we can seek out and opt in to to leverage the power of tribal consciousness.

In fact, I might even suggest that this Good Vibe Blog community is just such a tribe!

Maybe I’m playing loose with the definition of tribe,

okay, I looked it up:

Tribe, n.  “A unit of sociopolitical organization consisting of a number of families, clans, or other groups who share a common ancestry and culture and among whom leadership is typically neither formalized nor permanent.”

I think we count.

.. regardless, I believe we don’t have to “leave the tribe” as much as we just need to choose one on purpose that supports what we’re up to. 

I believe a carefully chosen tribe could support us in achieving high levels of consciousness and along with that, huge powers of manifestation.

(In fact, Wayne and Deepak have created such tribes! I visited Deepak’s last year – it was fab!)

Personal development guru, Jim Rohn, is often quoted for reminding us to be deliberate about who we hang out with, because that group has a strong effect on who we’re becoming.

So I’ll accept Wayne and Deepak’s wise advice to consciously opt out of the particular tribal consciousness that says we are powerless players in a random and chaotic world and that there is good reason to fear others.

At the same time I’ll happily plug into the tribe that reminds me of the truth: that we are powerful creators, all connected, made of the stuff of Gods.

That’s a tribal consciousness I can get on board with. 

How about you – what is your tribe programming you with? 

This is your official invitation to take a good look at what your tribe is peddling and make a conscious new connection if it isn’t serving your highest interests. 

PS – what are your favorite tribes?  Let’s hear how you found it, what it is, and what it does for you.  Someone here may be looking to join!

Related posts:

1. Look, Choose, Move
2. Creative Remedies for the Vibe
3. More Proof that Vibe Trumps Action